According to the US Census Bureau, the household type that is growing rapidly since the 1980s was a single. It is the same in some countries such as the UK and Japan. According to the report, 60% of people living in Stockholm live alone.
Does it raise the question as to whether it is better to live by a single person or live together with a devoted partnership?
Benefits of living alone
People living alone usually have less financial burden. Especially fashion and leisure advertisers are targeting these consumers because of their large disposable income.
A person living alone may feel that life is not more complicated. He or she may admit freedom as giving the independence for research development or for career development.
A single person may not be interested in having dedicated relationships or having children.
Instead, being single may be considered best just because you have not met the right person yet.
"Bad marriage makes people feel loner than being single" (Sociologist Eric Kleiban Professor).
Benefits of living with appropriate partners
The quality of life of a couple is very different. For example, it is not really happy to live in an unhappy relationship, such as when you always depend on others for emotions and financial resources. However, if an appropriate partner is found, you will want to share responsibility for decision-making and want to meet the demands of time for families and children. Other partners can provide emotional support and once the life becomes pear-shaped the company and one can depend on it.
According to many published studies, individuals who live on average as a couple know that the early mortality rate is low. Physical and emotional health tend to be connected, and happy people bring emotional benefits.
On the other hand, several recent studies suggest that a single person who is more self-sufficient is unlikely to experience negative emotions.
Importance of challenges for spiritual growth
From a spiritual point of view I insist that personal growth has important mental elements. For me, there is no longer any way to prioritize things that are naturally fun and enjoyable. I can no longer see my life in my taste, my social position, my convenience, my desire. Instead, I am learning to think more about others, their feelings, needs, concerns, and predicament.
The detour like we are paying attention is quite fundamental, in fact it is rather difficult to achieve. However, I suggest that life itself is a place of training for this kind of personal growth. We always oblige the right thing. There is no end to the challenge that tests our solution and teaches the lessons of the new life. These challenges can be avoided and escaped. Meanwhile, we can try to deal with them.
Undoubtedly, I gain many benefits from such personal difficulties in my life. This is because we need a positive reaction to help us change from ego-oriented to other oriented. From time to time, life changes from confusion to enlightenment, from looking in the dark, from light to self-centeredness to affectionate kindness gradually.
Challenge for living alone
Living together as a couple, especially parents, does not provide an end to the challenge. But we can learn a lot from them.
You must have all your own ways to share a house. Giving rules, okay!
Living with someone always means voluntary communication. Your spouse wants a couple of notes so you stop doing what you are doing. I will learn how to listen sensitively with sympathy. You begin to speak openly and honestly about the offensive problem.
Children are more patient and strongly demanding resistance to noise, instability and attentional demands.
Having a shared house means that others expect you to do what you agree with, such as cleaning housework, cooking, washing, gardening, car maintenance.
Your partner expects to share important decisions. You can not spend money on a whim. Likewise, the options on income are not mere personal issues, but raises a balance between work and family life and issues of work and house place.
Good couple partnership and spiritual growth
For family life, it is necessary to respond to the needs and expectations of others. In this way we develop as a human being. The committed intimate relationship supports spiritual personal growth in other ways. With the support of a good partner, I can pierce the balloon again this time, facing the perfect life for you, helping you get off the high horse. If the other party has a warm heart, you can influence humans, such as not to be harsh on your own judgment. As you notice the wise reaction of your partner to your idea, you do not have much to worry about.
You may not be staying in the clouds in your opinion, but rather towards their practical suggestions.
A spouse who can chat about matters concerning you in objective light helps you to distinguish subjective prejudice clearly. Likewise, if you can see what is bothering you from a higher perspective, you can guide your thoughts and actions.
These things can happen on a daily basis, bringing a big difference to your thoughts and emotions for a long time.
Such notifications may seem unrealistic in unsatisfactory relationships where many people fail over time. However, in a deep harmony of philosopher Emanuel Swedenborg's "merciful love", the partnership between the two partners was one person,
- A warm feeling will affect you beyond your own interests.
- Reasonable thinking will affect you beyond your intuition.
